Be the Boldest Version of Yourself

Once a shy little girl, turned into a shy teenager following the “friends” around her to a young woman who did not speak her mind. Bold. What is that? A bright color like highlighters, you mean? No, BOLD. Embracing and owning who I am. Showing up every day and everywhere as my authentic self. Letting my personality quirks and all shine through. Speaking my mind and standing up for myself. Bold! It is about being your fearless self! Not everyone will like you,or your boldness and that's completely fine.

You don’t call your friends for permission to buy groceries. You don’t ask your parents if it’s okay to grab your favorite coffee on your way to work. You don’t stop strangers on the street to see if it’s acceptable to take a self-care day and spend extra time with your kids.

So why are you seeking permission to grow into your best self? Be unapologetically bold. Embrace your courage. Not everyone will understand the changes that will happen while you are learning and beginning to show up as who you are. You might also find it difficult to explain, or get others to support and understand your passion and drive, and that’s perfectly fine. It's not their job to propel you towards your best self—that's your responsibility.

It was difficult for me to begin showing up as my authentic self at first until I fully accepted it.

One of my first changes that I implemented was not allowing myself to be available only when others see fit. I was accustomed to being available for others at any time while they limited the time they had for me. I knew that I was being used in certain relationships and I still allowed the relationship to continue. (By the way, anytime I say relationships it also includes parents, siblings, extended family, children, spouse, partners, coworkers, etc. All of these are relationships.)  I did not value myself. The good news is that as you are discovering who you are your value meter will go up. 

Boldness in Relationships

Why worry about whether your friends and family approve of your choices? 

Why let imagined opinions deflate your enthusiasm and passions?

Being bold not only transforms your personal life but also enhances your relationships. But you have to be careful and remember that this is new for them like it is new for you. Habits change, values change and beliefs change. That is why it is essential to also have open, honest, healthy communication. 

When you and your partner embrace your individual authentic selves,take time to embrace each other as a couple. Take time to create a space of mutual respect, love, and grace. It’s essential to understand that both individuals need the freedom to be their true selves while also embracing each other. This may be a little rocky at first, but don't give up, balance will soon come as long as you both remember the importance of yall relationship and aim to find serenity. Bold couples communicate openly, support each other's growth, and navigate challenges with dedication, passion and grace.

In any relationship, the fear of disapproval can create barriers. By being bold, you dismantle these barriers, establish healthy boundaries and foster a deeper connection. It's about moving beyond survival mode and finding meaning in every interaction. When both individuals are committed to being their authentic selves, they cultivate a relationship that thrives on honesty, support, and mutual respect.

When you shift your focus away from others and onto yourself. You are able to see your life in a better light. This is the time for you to reflect on every aspect of your life. Yes, every aspect. The good, the amazing, the bad and yes, even the ugly. Acknowledge and own all of it, so then you can follow up with change and implementation. Some places you will learn to go harder and others you will learn that you need to let go and change. The most important part is that you take time to dig deep within yourself and be honest with yourself. This action is very difficult for some, because it means they have to acknowledge the things they did wrong just like they acknowledge the things they do correct. It is all worth it though. Believe me. 

Use your journal whether written, voice, or video to document and share your thoughts and feelings. Seek a professional like a therapist or coach to help guide you. 

I know you love your family and the people that you usually have around, but if you share this process along with your thoughts with them please remember that you are sharing and not asking for permission to discover who you are. We are conditioned from childhood to seek approval. This behavior pattern has been ingrained in us since our first steps, and instilled since adolescence. Just remember when you communicate it needs to be healthy communication in a healthy environment.

Boldness in Career and Life

Boldness in career and life is an essential ingredient for achieving remarkable growth and fulfillment. It acts as a catalyst that propels individuals toward their goals, enabling them to break free from the constraints of fear and self-doubt. For instance, consider someone who is aiming for a promotion at work. By demonstrating boldness, they might take the initiative to lead a high-stakes project, present innovative ideas to their superiors, or request a meeting to discuss their career aspirations. Such bold actions not only showcase their competence but also signal their readiness for greater responsibilities.

Additionally, boldness is crucial when contemplating a career change. Transitioning from one field to another can be daunting, but those who embrace their dreams view it as an opportunity rather than a risk. Take, for example, if you decided to leave your current position to pursue a career in digital marketing. You might enroll in relevant courses, network with professionals in the new industry, and apply for internships or entry-level positions to gain practical experience. Dreaming of starting a new business or nonprofit organization requires a leap of faith and an unwavering belief in one’s vision. By boldly stepping out of your comfort zone, they position themselves for success in a new and exciting arena.

In essence, boldness is about believing in your capabilities and not letting fear dictate your actions. It empowers you to move beyond perceived limitations, seize opportunities, and create a life that resonates with your true values and passions. Whether you are pursuing career advancements, navigating transitions, or beginning new ventures, being your authentic self is the key to unlocking your full potential.

Boldness in Our Children

Teaching our children to be bold is equally important. Encouraging them to embrace their uniqueness and pursue their passions sets them up for a fulfilling life. Bold children grow into confident adults who are not afraid to take risks, make decisions, and live authentically. By modeling boldness, you inspire the next generation to be fearless and true to themselves. They are able to go to school being confident which allows them to raise their hand to answer the question or read the next paragraph. They receive better grades and have a good circle of friends. 

My daughter was once shy and quiet. She would have difficulty making good friends, because she was too quiet and had issues with speaking up for herself. As I started sharing with her the things that I was doing to be boldly myself she started implementing some of the tools to empower herself. I had positive words on my office wall- she made some for her bedroom wall. I would write in a journal - she began writing in a journal. I would work out - she would work out. I wrote ‘Empowered Women Inspired Vision: Wisdom Guidance and Empowerment for Women' and she read it and started implementing some of the tools from the book. I published the Empowerment Coloring Book for Women and she uses it. The next year she started school she was confident, had less moments of anxiousness and built a healthy group of friends, stood up to bullies and protected her friend. That is an example of how you embracing your authentic self, learning, implementing and establishing healthy habits empower our children.

Empower Yourself Today

Here’s the beautiful thing about life: you have the freedom to choose. You have the power to reshape your habits and thought patterns. You can tap into something deeper within you—those feelings that ignite whenever you talk about your passions. Those are the feelings that, when harnessed properly, will transform your life.

You deserve to live a life of authenticity and freedom. Embrace your boldness and take the first step towards transforming your life. Reach out to me, Krystal Jae, to schedule your free consultation. Together, we can empower you to overcome obstacles, embrace your authentic self, and envision the life you’ve always dreamed of. Your journey towards empowerment and transformational healing starts now. Be bold, be fearless, and be unapologetically you.

You deserve happiness. You deserve an abundance of self-love and joy.

You deserve to live your best life!

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